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Acknowledging Different Families

At Wings & Roots, we know families don’t all look the same. Some children are raised by one parent, two moms, two dads, grandparents, or other caregivers. This page focuses on co-parenting with dads, but the ideas about sharing the load and being present can be adapted for any adults raising a child. If you’re parenting on your own, we hope this also affirms that you shouldn’t be expected to carry everything without support.

 

Our Mission

At Wings and Roots we focus on  Dads Should Be Co-Parents and True Father Figures.

Our mission is to educate and empower families everywhere to embrace co-parenting. We use this website to share awareness, challenge stereotypes about who “should” parent, and offer practical tools for more equal, supportive caregiving.

You can also use the site to book appointments if you’d like to talk with us directly about your parenting situation—but you never need an appointment to learn, reflect, or share our resources with others.

You Are Not Alone

We understand that parenting can be overwhelming. New parents, experienced parents, fathers, caregivers, single parents, and parents-to-be – this message is for you. It's easy to feel like you're failing when you see other families seemingly doing it all. But remember, many are in the same boat.

The Comparison Trap

One of the hardest parts of parenting is how easy it is to compare yourself to others. Social media often shows a polished, unrealistic picture of “perfect” families. But every family’s reality is different, and what works for one may not work for another. Try to focus less on comparison and more on what actually supports you, your co-parent, and your child.

Parenting Isn’t Always Glamorous

Parenting isn’t just cute photos and fun outings. Most days it looks like messes, meltdowns, long nights, and boring jobs that nobody posts online. Co-parenting means sharing those hard and unglamorous parts too, so one parent isn’t carrying all of it alone.

Take Action: Reflect & Connect

Ready to start feeling less guilty? Take a moment to reflect on your situation. Why are you feeling this way? What are the contributing factors? Talk to your kids, your partner, and your parents. Gather insights and address them one by one. We're here to help you create a personalized path forward. Message us, and we'll guide you.

Where the “Helper Dad” Story Comes From

The “helper dad” idea comes from gender norms and media, not from biology

For years, TV shows, ads, and jokes have shown dads as the funny, clueless parent and moms as the “real” parent who knows everything.

 

 

This is where our journey begins

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Resources & Support

You don’t have to figure this out on your own.
Alongside our website and any appointments you book with us, these services offer extra information, crisis help, and counselling. Explore what feels right for you and your family.

Real Stories, Real Impact

Read inspiring stories of families who have embraced co-parenting and experienced positive transformations. Learn how fathers have stepped into their roles as full co-parents, improving their families lives and creating stronger relationships.

"I used to feel like I was failing at everything. Work was stressful, my parents were aging, money was tight – and on top of that I was supposed to be a ‘present dad.’ Most nights I came home drained, scrolled on my phone, and told myself I’d do better tomorrow.

Reading through this site helped me see how much the outside pressures were shaping what I did at home. I started with a few small steps: planning one bedtime routine that was my job, taking over school emails and appointments, and actually talking with my partner about how stressed I was instead of shutting down.

I’m not a perfect co-parent now, but I’m involved. My kids ask for me at bedtime, and my wife tells me she finally feels like we’re on the same team instead of her dragging me along."

Jamal, dad of two

“I was completely worn out. I did the cooking, the appointments, the birthday gifts, the school forms – and on top of that, I felt like I had to be both ‘mom’ and ‘dad’ because my husband only ‘helped’ when I told him exactly what to do. I loved him, but I was starting to feel invisible and resentful.

This website gave me language for the mental load and tools to talk about it without just fighting. I sent him a couple of pages, and he actually read them. For the first time, he said, ‘I didn’t realize how much you were carrying.’ We sat down, divided some tasks, and he took full ownership of mornings and homework.

Life is still busy, but I don’t feel alone anymore. Our kids see both of us parenting, and I finally have space to breathe and be more than the default parent.”

Ana, partner & mom

“As two dads, people often assume we ‘already share everything,’ but that wasn’t our reality. I stayed home more, so I quietly took on most of the childcare, school communication, and emotional check-ins, while my partner focused on earning enough for our family. We loved each other, but we kept bumping into the same arguments about who was ‘doing more.’

The resources here helped us see our family within a bigger picture — work stress, money, our own childhoods, and the messages we’d absorbed about who should do what. We used the reflection questions to map out all the invisible jobs and chose a few shifts: he now leads bedtime and medical appointments; I stopped feeling guilty about asking for solo time.

Our son notices that both his dads show up for him in different ways. We’re still learning, but our home feels more equal, calmer, and a lot more like the family we imagined.”

 Marco & Alex, co-parenting dads

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